There’s a bizarre tendency in humans to want to assert ourselves over each other. We get competitive. We want to prove our intelligence. We want to flag our own personal views as the best.
Sadly, we do it quite often with friends, people we like.
Some friends seem unlosable. You take for granted that they will keep being your friend so it can be easy to mouth off.
You have a discussion, and explore a difference of opinion. It can start out casual. Little by little, you parade your thoughts. Pride creeps in. Rebuttals start becoming cheap shots. You want to crush the source of your friend’s inferior opinion.
And the conversation deteriorates so gradually that you don’t realise how dangerous it has become.
There is nothing wrong with discussing a difference of opinion, as long as you can be content with differences in opinion. The world isn’t one where everyone thinks alike, it never will be. This variety is both frustrating and fascinating.
Exchange views without being so proud that you assume your friends need to adopt your opinions. Winning the argument is nowhere near as important as you think it is in the moment.
Sometimes you can win an argument and lose a friend.
There is the classic one-word answer caricature we have of teens. The problem isn’t just in the answers, the problem is also the dull questions.
On the course of thinking on a new line, we can stumble on an idea trail. If we follow it, that idea starts to take shape.
When we're in a forced conversation, the temptation is to default to light filler topics. But it's easy to have a gripping conversation with someone you have never met before. It could be more memorable than you expect.
The future is here. This is the new approach to conversation - the unexpected, the unconventional, the unpredictable.
When you talk to someone, you realise they have passions, struggles, quirks & hopes. The same as you. This is how conversation builds acceptance of diversity.