Some will scoff at the idea of a new year’s relevance in changing your behaviour.
But I believe that a new year can represent a new chapter, a clean slate. It can be a time to self-access and look at what I want to do differently.
And whether it’s having more fun, expanding friendships or personal growth, conversation is an integral factor.
What conversation goals can you set this year?
Will you aim to call your parents regularly? Perhaps set a regular reminder on your phone to prompt you.
Is there a friendship you want to take deeper? Suggest a regular activity you can do that will motivate regular get-togethers, such as going for walks together, playing chess, or kicking a footy. Anything that is an excuse to get together & chat.
Do you want to tell people how you really feel about them? This is excellent because it affirms people when they aren’t expecting it. While a birthday greeting can be nice, it can also feel forced. Aim each week to send someone a random message telling them why you appreciate & enjoy them. Be specific. Or even better, say it to their face.
Do you want to improve your relationship with your partner? Talk together more. Have unnecessary conversations. Plan regular activities together where you can talk a lot and rediscover each other. Fall in love again.
Do you want to be more social? Do you want to be more interesting? Have some conversation starters up your sleeve to give you confidence.
Do you want to use your Awkward Silence subscription more? Perhaps you see the questions in your inbox each week but forget to use them. Think of some situations that come up regularly where you can automatically use them, such as when having coffees or in the car with anyone.
Conversation will impact your year. So prepare to make the most of it.