How we start a conversation often decides its trajectory. When we meet someone for the first time, it can even be the difference in making a new friend.
So maybe you should rethink how you greet people.
Hello. Hi. Nice to meet you. These are all perfectly fine greetings. But if you want to maximise your conversation skills, try something different.
What impression do you want to make on people? Do you want to make them laugh? Then think of a comical way to greet people. Do you want to make them feel flattered? Find a way to compliment people as you meet them.
Personally, I like to switch people on, make them present. So when I get the inevitable “how are you?” that people often greet me with, I use a hyperbole like “amazing” or “incredible”. The response surprises people. A simple trick like this often works to immediately elevate the conversation, even simple interactions. And you really do see people’s eyes light up and their brains turn on. They know this isn’t a routine conversation.
A distinguishing greeting makes you more memorable too. My “how are you” gimmick has often resulted in people on the second meeting say “I remember you!”.
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