I’m not much into food presentation. I have a rule – it should taste better than it looks.
The same could be said of people. Everyone should be more interesting than they look.
We spend vast amounts of time, money & energy attending to our appearance. Yet often the people who spend the most effort working on their abs or make-up are the dullest people to talk to.
The best thing about people is their personalities. It’s what keeps friends coming back for more.
An attractive yet dull person wears thin very quickly.
Take the resources you put into your appearance and use them to improve your personality. Make time for reading books. Put effort into trying creative pursuits. Spend money on your hobbies.
Then when you end up in a conversation, you’ll have something more interesting to talk about than your shoes.
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