I’m not much into food presentation. I have a rule – it should taste better than it looks.
The same could be said of people. Everyone should be more interesting than they look.
We spend vast amounts of time, money & energy attending to our appearance. Yet often the people who spend the most effort working on their abs or make-up are the dullest people to talk to.
The best thing about people is their personalities. It’s what keeps friends coming back for more.
An attractive yet dull person wears thin very quickly.
Take the resources you put into your appearance and use them to improve your personality. Make time for reading books. Put effort into trying creative pursuits. Spend money on your hobbies.
Then when you end up in a conversation, you’ll have something more interesting to talk about than your shoes.
Try our blind taste test – if the people you talk to were blind then would they still want to talk to you? Would your appearance make any difference? What would enhance the conversation?
Your appearance can be an expression of your personality, especially when you buck fashion trends and dress in a way that is truly you. But after that first impression is made, you’ll need to reveal something more significant.
Engaging in interesting conversations has exponential rewards. By taking what you’ve heard in other conversations, you can feed them into your current & future conversations.
Who are your special people, the ones who will be there for you in both good times & bad?
Are you interacting through text, messenger & email rather than vocally? Is that even a bad thing?
Food should always taste better than it looks. Likewise, people should always be more interesting than they appear.
How we start a conversation often decides its trajectory. So maybe you should rethink how you greet people.
Even when you can't solve a friend's problem, talking about it helps.
Conversation will make or break a first date. How can you take the pressure off of thinking of things to talk about?
Do you use your words to make a positive impact or a negative one? Have you listened to yourself lately?
What should you talk about when you know a conversation is only going to be brief?
If you want to have a rewarding conversation with someone, never ask this question.
There is a reason we are social. It's to be known.