Relationships quickly lose their flavour when conversation stops.
Sometimes the conversation dries up intentionally, sometimes unintentionally, sometimes without us even being aware of it. In each case, the consequences are similar.
Why is conversation so necessary?
Conversation keeps connection alive. Without connection, decay starts to set into the relationship. A distance emerges.
Conversation enables communication. When we are talking regularly, we know what’s going on with each other. When we don’t talk, imagination takes over. What is the other thinking? What are they up to? What are they hiding? With regular communication, these concerns aren’t fabricated. Your imagination won’t run wild.
Conversation keeps us interested in each other. It’s easy to lose interest in someone we aren’t engaging with.
Conversation keeps us growing together. When we don’t talk often, we can start to go on different paths.
Sometimes distractions can creep in. We are busy with work or study or some project. You & your partner’s attention seems to be entirely on your kids. Sometimes the ordinary day-to-day unexcitement of life leaves little prompting to talk.
This is why we need to be deliberate with our conversations. Ensure you turn the TV off over dinner some nights, and talk to each other instead. Go on “date nights” regularly rather than occasionally. Go beyond the token small talk. Ask some big questions.
When you have dull days and there isn’t much to talk about, use your Awkward Silence subscription to find new things to talk about. Often what we talk about isn’t as important as the fact that we are simply spending time together talking.
Don't be a victim of not talking.