You may be afraid to talk to certain family or friends because you know it will lead to arguments.
The result is a relationship that isn’t dead, but is completely numb.
Chances are that this is a relationship you would like to salvage.
Try some of our tactics in order to really talk to the person rather than dreading your next conversation with them:
1. Don’t interrupt: Hear the other person out. Let them say what they need to say.
2. Listen for their intent: Don’t simply try to convey your point, listen for the point the other person is making (even if you disagree with it). They have a reason for saying what they are saying.
3. Agree to disagree: At times you won’t be able to agree. Accept this as a fact of life. Discuss instead how to manage your differences. There is nothing fundamentally wrong with having a difference of opinion.
4. Highlight what you agree about: There is probably some common ground between you. Note this to emphasise that you aren’t completely at odds.
5. Forgive: Forgiveness is when you have a right to hold a grudge, but you don’t. You let it go, and the relationship is restored. You don’t simply bite your tongue, you remove it as a stumbling block. Are you still arguing about something that happened years ago? Let it go. If you want to hold it over the person, you aren’t really interested in having a mutually beneficial relationship.
6. Don’t compete: Sometimes your argument ends up being a competition, heralding which of you is in the right. Remember that illustrating who is right is less important than the relationship itself.
7. Assert yourself: Be respectful but remember that respect needs to go both ways. Don’t let yourself be a punching bag on a permanent basis.
8. Choose your battles: Do you bicker about insignificant things? Maybe stand up for yourself when it’s actually necessary. You don’t need to get your way with everything.
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