There is an opportunity I’ll never have again.
I recently attended the funeral of a friendly gentleman from my church. Every week after the service, we’d make a little light talk. He was very likable but we never went too deeply into conversation as we were both making our exits.
The funeral had a huge turnout. I’d be happy if my own funeral got even a fraction of that amount of people. I listened with interest at the eulogy and stories that came out. I discovered a lot more about his history & his unique personality. There was much I didn’t know about him.
The more I heard, the more I realised I should have sat down with him from time to time for a longer conversation.
I am sure I could have learnt much from him. If nothing else, it would have surely been an entertaining chat.
Hearing at the funeral about his kindness and hospitable attitude, I’m sure it would have inspired me to better myself if I had talked to him more.
It’s too late to do have those conversations with him now. But it’s not too late for me to talk to others, to say “let’s sit & talk for a while”.
What should you talk about when you know a conversation is only going to be brief?
If you want to have a rewarding conversation with someone, never ask this question.
There is a reason we are social. It's to be known.
Last week, we discussed the importance of not interrupting others. But sometimes an interruption can actually enhance a conversation.
You hate being interrupted, but do you interrupt others?
Couples fall in love when they become interested in each other. But as you start to become less interesting to each other, what can be done to stop another interesting person jeapordizing the relationship?
What's your favorite band? What's your favorite book? People shoot down "favorite" questions because they haven't got an answer ready. But you don't need an answer to discuss these questions.
Disappointed by how you're answering questions? This is how conversation motivates you to change for the better.
When starting a conversation, we can jump to the most obvious question. Chances are, this person has heard this question a lot and is now bored by it.
It may surprise you that it's OK not to talk sometimes.