Most enjoy some light-hearted back & forth. Witty banter. It's much better than keeping things straight or, even worse, being grumpy at each other.
Witty banter can result in fun conversation, like in-jokes that can last a life-time thanks to an off-the-cuff remark that one time.
The problem is when you only want to keep it at that level. Some people only want to keep things light. When a heavy conversation topic is on the horizon, they make a joke to escape it.
It's OK to go deep. It's OK to have a serious conversation. It's OK to reveal something honest of yourself.
We can use jokes as a conversation defence. What we don't realise is that it's OK to be vulnerable. Vulnerability builds trust.
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What should you talk about when you know a conversation is only going to be brief?
If you want to have a rewarding conversation with someone, never ask this question.
There is a reason we are social. It's to be known.
Last week, we discussed the importance of not interrupting others. But sometimes an interruption can actually enhance a conversation.
You hate being interrupted, but do you interrupt others?
Couples fall in love when they become interested in each other. But as you start to become less interesting to each other, what can be done to stop another interesting person jeapordizing the relationship?
What's your favorite band? What's your favorite book? People shoot down "favorite" questions because they haven't got an answer ready. But you don't need an answer to discuss these questions.
Disappointed by how you're answering questions? This is how conversation motivates you to change for the better.
When starting a conversation, we can jump to the most obvious question. Chances are, this person has heard this question a lot and is now bored by it.
It may surprise you that it's OK not to talk sometimes.