Most enjoy some light-hearted back & forth. Witty banter. It's much better than keeping things straight or, even worse, being grumpy at each other.
Witty banter can result in fun conversation, like in-jokes that can last a life-time thanks to an off-the-cuff remark that one time.
The problem is when you only want to keep it at that level. Some people only want to keep things light. When a heavy conversation topic is on the horizon, they make a joke to escape it.
It's OK to go deep. It's OK to have a serious conversation. It's OK to reveal something honest of yourself.
We can use jokes as a conversation defence. What we don't realise is that it's OK to be vulnerable. Vulnerability builds trust.
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