You need to keep up.
People change. What they were isn’t necessarily who they are. Not entirely at least.
I’m currently reading a biography on an historic figure, and I notice that sometimes they suggest he contradicts himself by saying one thing and then years later he says something else.
If someone wrote about me, I would hate to think that things I said years ago would still be considered my current point of view.
Because I, like everyone, change. I learn, I grow, I experience.
Some aspects may stay the same, but others won’t.
And all too often, the idea we have of a person can be an outdated one. That can even be true of people we are close to, like family or a spouse.
This is why we need to talk often. Open conversation helps us keep up with each other, it updates.
People aren’t mind-readers, they won’t always assume you think differently to what you once did.
Talk regularly about a variety of things. Even if you think you know how someone feels about something, discuss it again. Maybe there’s been a shift.
Often conversation is part of our personal evolution as we are exposed to different viewpoints & different ways of thinking.
Even if you know someone, get to know them again.
If you aren’t listening, the conversation doesn’t evolve. It’s just two people saying things they each already know at each other.
Some things are good for us to hear, even if they are things we already know.
Martin Pistorius was diagnosed as being brain dead. Yet he was conscious, alert, and could see & hear everything that was happening around him. No one realised for 11 years.