We try not to, but we still often judge people by their appearance.
On “You Can’t Ask That” recently, the show featured people whose faces were different either through accident, health issue or birth abnormality.
One woman commented that it forced people to get to know her. And this was evidently true.
While the first minute of the show is very confronting in being such a departure from what we see as normal, the episode got easier to watch as you get to know the variety of people interviewed.
It reminded me that it’s in talking to anyone that we discover their personality most.
Conversation is where personality is king.
We can show a little of our personality in how we dress or groom ourselves. We can try to present a manicured version of ourselves in our social media feeds. But conversation is where our personality is most evident.
I’m not sure I’ll ever be able to avoid being taken with surprise by someone who looks a bit different. I may not be able to initially ignore my curiosity about superficial features. But I do know that when I meet someone, I want to talk to them to learn what they are really about.
As you get to know the real them, how they look quickly becomes irrelevant.
On the other side, you can be the most attractive person in the world, but if the conversation dies than you soon appear dull.
Work on building up your conversation skills, because getting to know someone with personality is always more rewarding than meeting someone who is good-looking. (The two aren’t mutually exclusive.)
(As a side note, “You Can’t Ask That” is regularly a terrific talking point. They take curious groups of people and ask the questions you are always afraid to ask, or questions that are considered to rude to ask.)
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