Some friendships seem to evaporate.
A period of time passes by when you haven’t seen each other. Perhaps you had often seen them at parties, or you used to work with them. But for a while now you haven’t had an excuse to see them.
One of the nicest things is to suggest hanging out with someone for no reason at all. You don’t need an excuse.
After a long absence, we can be concerned about what to talk about. Often the chemistry picks up right where it left off. But if it needs a kick-start to reignite, use your Awkward Silence conversation starters to get the chemistry going again.
One of the traps we can fall into when trying to see someone we haven’t seen in a while is to message them saying “we should catch up soon”. And they genuinely agree it’s a good idea. But no specifics are made so the idea doesn’t eventuate.
So don’t just suggest to catch-up, ask when is suitable. If one of you is currently too busy to lock in a day, put a reminder in your calendar to ask again in a month. Having a trigger is more likely to get results.
Who is someone you haven’t caught up with in a while that you would love to talk to again?
Don’t wait for an excuse. Send them a message asking when you can get together to talk next.
What should you talk about when you know a conversation is only going to be brief?
If you want to have a rewarding conversation with someone, never ask this question.
There is a reason we are social. It's to be known.
Last week, we discussed the importance of not interrupting others. But sometimes an interruption can actually enhance a conversation.
You hate being interrupted, but do you interrupt others?
Couples fall in love when they become interested in each other. But as you start to become less interesting to each other, what can be done to stop another interesting person jeapordizing the relationship?
What's your favorite band? What's your favorite book? People shoot down "favorite" questions because they haven't got an answer ready. But you don't need an answer to discuss these questions.
Disappointed by how you're answering questions? This is how conversation motivates you to change for the better.
When starting a conversation, we can jump to the most obvious question. Chances are, this person has heard this question a lot and is now bored by it.
It may surprise you that it's OK not to talk sometimes.