Some friendships seem to evaporate.
A period of time passes by when you haven’t seen each other. Perhaps you had often seen them at parties, or you used to work with them. But for a while now you haven’t had an excuse to see them.
One of the nicest things is to suggest hanging out with someone for no reason at all. You don’t need an excuse.
After a long absence, we can be concerned about what to talk about. Often the chemistry picks up right where it left off. But if it needs a kick-start to reignite, use your Awkward Silence conversation starters to get the chemistry going again.
One of the traps we can fall into when trying to see someone we haven’t seen in a while is to message them saying “we should catch up soon”. And they genuinely agree it’s a good idea. But no specifics are made so the idea doesn’t eventuate.
So don’t just suggest to catch-up, ask when is suitable. If one of you is currently too busy to lock in a day, put a reminder in your calendar to ask again in a month. Having a trigger is more likely to get results.
Who is someone you haven’t caught up with in a while that you would love to talk to again?
Don’t wait for an excuse. Send them a message asking when you can get together to talk next.
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How do you respond when an important conversation presents itself? Do you minimise it?
Are conversations about entertainment pointless?
What is the taboo topic that we should talk about a lot more?
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Does your attitude to conversation result in people reflecting on your words long after you’ve said them? Or do you just make disposable chit-chat?