The reason many couples fall in love is that they are interested in each other.
Often that interest quickly turns to fascination. But after a couple of years, the puppy love stage wears off and it becomes harder to stay interested in each other.
You’ve had time to become accustomed to your partner’s best features, and they don’t tend to flutter the heart as much as they once did.
And here’s the surprising thing: once this duller stage takes over, a lot of couples still decide to stay together. It’s about commitment. It has different kinds of benefits. And it’s still a beautiful thing, though often less exciting.
A committed couple in this stage faces a danger – someone else interesting may come along and take some attention away. There is a good chance of this, because most people are interesting in some way.
This may cause some confusion in your mind & emotions. The new person may linger in your thoughts & feelings.
It’s a battle between the proven good thing in your life and the new intriguing attraction.
And even if you don’t succumb to the temptation, it can create a sense of disappointment in your relationship.
What can be done about this?
Primarily, you need to stay interesting to each other.
You need to grow together. You need to interact. You need to keep the connection alive.
And the best way to do this is to talk. Talk often. Talk about a variety of things. Talk about personal things. Talk about new things, things you haven’t talked about before.
When you have run out of things to talk about, Awkward Silence is here to help. It’s what we do. We give you new & interesting things to talk about every week.
Ask interesting questions. Not only will it make your partner more interesting to you, it will make you more interesting to them.