It's OK to not be OK

I crashed my car. My mum called me up that night and asked how I was. I responded "Good. How are you?"

You do the same with your doctor. You're there because you're unwell, but when he asks "how are you?", you are good.

Everyone is always "good".

You could be in tears, but you would always say "good" when someone asks.

It's a reflex. But it's more than that.

It's a human instinct to avoid being vulnerable, to avoid admitting that we aren't on top of our lives.

There will be times when you aren't good.

And it's OK to admit that. We are all in that place sometimes.

It's even better to let your friends into that place. 

“Your real friends don’t care that you aren’t perfect. It’s perfectly human.”

It's when you admit you're not OK that you can start dealing with the problem. Especially if the problem is you.

The person that ignores their house being on fire will still have it burnt down. How long it burns for depends on how long you ignore it.

Take off the pressure to be perfect. Your real friends don't care that you aren't perfect. It's perfectly human.

It's OK to not be OK. Most of the time, it only lasts a little while.

Don't be afraid to be real. The proud veneer is rather worthless anyway.

Let's talk.