Confrontation Before Conflict

Everyone hates confrontation.

There is something bugging you but you keep your mouth shut. You don't want the weird tension that paralyzes the air when you want to work out an issue with someone.

The problem is this issue reaches a breaking point, and turns into conflict. The heat of the moment adds emotional venom. The other person is trying to put out the fire that has started on them, they are being defensive.

And confrontation tends to happen mostly with people you spend a lot of time around, those you are close to.

Most people have an annoying habit, one that probably doesn't bother them. But it bothers you, so you notice it more.

Or perhaps there are unresolved emotions over comments made in passing.

“The heat of the moment adds emotional venom. The other person is trying to put out the fire that has started on them.”

Confrontation is unpleasant and awkward. But confrontation can be constructive.

If you do it with people you care about, that awkwardness is very worthwhile for improving relationships.

Take some time with those you deal with regularly, and invite them to tell you what you have done that bothers them. Inviting criticism means you are more likely to diagnose the trouble rather than makes excuses for why you aren't at fault.

It's not a blame game. It's about having a healthy relationship, one that works towards mitigating the kinks.

Let's talk.