As you learn the lesson of loves through various relationships, one lesson in particular inevitably comes up.
Sometimes we are in love with the idea of being in love rather than the target of our affection.
This can lead to rose-coloured glasses blinding us to the fact your relationship is nothing like you think it is.
Romantic gestures and delusions of grandeur blossom but in time are likely deflated. And it can cause frustrations and unfair accusations when your partner doesn’t turn out to be the person you had scripted them to be.
It’s nice to be wanted. But do they want you for you or is it for the love of love?
“Do they want you for you or is it for the love of love?”
Rather than showering your new partner in pre-conceived ideas of love, explore your chemistry instead.
Have conversations. Discover their likes & dislikes, their idiosyncrasies & passions. Explore their personality. And give them the chance to do the same with you.
This risks the chance of discovering that you don’t actually adore each other as much as you thought you did. But at least it’s true and gives you a chance to find someone who you actually do truly love.
And real people fuel a much bigger love than imaginary ones ever do.
Let’s talk.
Is your love real or not?